Just Doing Her Job

     It's been a month since I posted to my blog. First, I had the flu which took me out of commission for several days, then I was out of town with my sisters- in-law and some nieces. Today I have a moment to write, only because I spent the day at my doctor’s office, then to a hospital, the nearest one that had availability for a scan. So now, I must relax, but my idea of relaxing is to keep busy. That’s just the way my mind works.

     Over the decades I have had a multitude of problems from physical to mental, from accident caused, to disease. I won’t give details today except to admit that I mask them well. Not many people know this, but I have a psychiatric service dog. A service animal is different than a therapy pet or emotional support dog. A service dog performs a task that is needed by the patient. In the case of sight-impaired people, they are guided by their canine companions. Some of our furry co-workers pick up objects or provide a strong support for their humans to get up off the floor if they’ve fallen. Some will indicate that the diabetic human they serve has rapidly falling blood sugar and for young, busy people this actually does save lives. Teddi provides grounding and a sense of safety. I’ll explain more about that later.

     A service dog, in most states, is recommended by one or more medical professional. They are trained for specific jobs. These canines (and sometimes horses) are a little different than our furry friends that are there, just as our friends and companions, in that SD’s are allowed everywhere: clinics, restaurants, salons, museums, concerts etc.

     I personally do not anticipate taking Teddi to a restaurant unless it has outdoor seating. I never dine alone. I won’t take her to medical or physical therapy appointments, although my physical therapist says Teddi is welcome any time. I don’t need her at work, but I have had her at my feet, in the past, while I type reports and greet clients. Many people have their SD by their side every moment. It is their choice, need, and right. Please, do not distract their dogs or harass the team. Err on the side of caution. Be kind. When I need Teddi is mainly at night and specific situations due to my PTSD. My mind takes me back to certain moments and Teddi brings me back to reality.

     Several days ago, once I felt well enough to go for a short walk, I took Teddi to a mall. I’ve met other people there in the past that ask A LOT of questions. I appreciate it when these shoppers and walkers ask first before petting, and wait for an answer. Teddi is very accommodating. Many people ask me why she doesn’t wear a vest. The answer is, some SD’s do wear vests but it is not required by law. Wearing a vest encumbers Teddi from some tasks. Add to that, anyone can buy a vest online, slap it on a dog and it will look authentic. Chances are that dog will still bark, nip, lunge and pee indoors. Service dogs will bark to signal that their human needs help, but will not yap in public continuously.

     It’s because of these liars, many people assume most service dogs and owners are fakes. Some malls will remove all dogs including service dogs, which is against the law and breaks ADA rules. I’ve had it happen in another town, but left quietly (and injured myself) because my anxiety was getting the better of me during the harassment. 

     On our most recent jaunt to the closest mall, the guard on duty and I did more talking than I did walking. I’ve met a couple of the security officers there over the months and they are pretty good about Teddi. This guard didn’t recognize me at first, but when he remembered me, we visited and talked about PTSD and his time in the service of our country, the men he lost, injuries and survivor’s guilt. I saw that he was desperately fighting back his emotions. His eyes began to water. Teddi stood up on her legs, touched his chest and looked into his eyes. She put pressure on him and he began to calm. He said, “She’s doing her job.”

     I said, “Yes, Sir. She’s just doing her job.”

Along The Road

     After running unsupervised for more than a year in Oregon, Davey and Harold were about to be sent home. The next step was: how to get George Ransom Owen’s young sons back to Detroit.

     It was warm enough for a cross-country drive so Edward, the boys’ oldest brother, went to retrieve the little scoundrels. Some other family members went along for the drive, but I cannot recall who. It was about 1946.

     On the road they were, once again, camping sometimes along the way, Edward using his Army issued (or so I was told) dual coffee-maker-water heater-maybe cookstove at picnic tables. If I find that old relic in my camping gear, I’ll snap a photo and share it. I also thought that it belonged to my Grammaw Farmer.

     It was quite the journey for two young boys. Unlike their bus trip, they got to tour places like Strawberry Reservoir and the Kodachrome Basin. More than likely, those iconic destinations were off the beaten path as the saying goes, but for a man who just got out of the US Army, it was a pleasure for Edward to take his young brothers to see the country for which he served.

     One eventful day, a convertible passed them on the highway. The young teen drivers waved and acted like they wanted to race. They’d slow down, then speed up repeatedly. The sun was bright. The girls wore sunglasses and scarves. Edward just grinned but would not take the bait. Finally the driver in the other car waved then sped off, going over a hill. Only a few moments passed as Edward’s car crept over the ridge to a horrific scene: The convertible had sped into a truck carrying new sewer pipes. The front of the sportscar was folded into itself. Edward slowed his vehicle and the boys saw something that my father, Davey, never forgot – a young woman’s head tumbled out from one of the cracked pipes, still wearing the scarf, landing on what remained of the convertible’s crumpled hood.

     There was nothing that could be done. If not for Edward refusing the challenge, perhaps my father could have died.

     I don’t know how to end this story. Nothing else eventful happened along the road home to Michigan after that accident, but two things can be learned A. No matter how cock-sure you are of your driving abilities and vehicle, don’t drive recklessly; and B. It’s wiser to keep a cool head in every situation and just smile.

Davey Faces his Goliath

 

     They faced each other. One group of boys up on a hill, a smaller group below. The boys above had the advantage of a clear view as well as gravity to aid them in throwing their chosen projectiles, mainly stones.

     Davey was once again left to his own devices, and his little “gang” was outnumbered by the children looking down at them with malice. Having a reputation of possessing quick reflexes and a sharp eye, he was known for walking through the park, and all the yards along the way, then when a patch of clover was at his feet, he could zero in on the rare four-leaf clovers and even more hard to find five-leaf specimens. He’d look, bend down and pluck one, just as fast as that. He could catch a fly from midair with the flick of a quick arm and snatch it in his fist. (With encouragement, he could have been a pro ballplayer, but he got none of that growing up.)

     He threw stones here and there, but mainly assessed his situation. Davey was pelted by pebbles, dodged a brick or two, and watched a shard of metal land at his feet. He looked at one boy in particular who’d been taunting him menacingly with words as well as sharp rocks. He picked up a fair-sized stone and aimed it at the apex and the child atop it.

                                                                      THUD!

     The stone hit its mark, striking right at the boy’s temple just as the big-mouth braggart turned his head toward his comrades. The injured child collapsed and then fell down the back of the hill. Davey realized he’d probably killed his target. Like before with the Russian sailor, he ran as far from the scene as he could, but this time, he felt remorse. He’d fatally struck a fellow playmate. Davey later heard that the boy was in rough shape and possibly could have died. Nobody knew who struck the damaging blow. He never confessed.

     Davey vowed never to throw rocks again. EVER.

     Shortly after that incident he and Harold were sent home to Michigan.

     Twenty years later, living in Delray, Dave Owen was a father of two step-daughters with a baby on the way. In the late summer humidity and city haze, neighborhood children were at play. His little six-year-old favorite, Margie, got into somewhat innocent rock throwing with the Nagy children and some others. At first it was just lobbing, but it quickly tuned into the oldest kids seeing who could throw a stone the hardest and leave a mark.

     Dave took Margie aside and told all of the youngsters, “Stop that! You could kill someone! I don’t want to see any of you throwing rocks at each other, ever again. You got that?” He turned to little Margie, and said, “. . . and if I ever catch you throwing rocks again, I’ll blister your little bottom!”

     Generally, the threat of a spanking would be more than enough for the waif to comply, but the next day, there they were again, chucking stones in the alley, Margie in the thick of things. He walked outside and the girl was still clutching a rock in her tiny fist, about to throw it, her back to Dave. The other children let their rocks drop to the ground, wide eyed. Margie let hers fly, but of course she didn’t have the arm strength to reach her intended mark with any real force. Deed accomplished, she then followed the gaze of at least one child and turned to see her daddy fuming. He took her by the arm and led her to the yard. All the while he thought to himself,

What am I going to do?  I told her not to get into another rock fight and yet she defied me! I need to show those kids that I mean what I say, yet, I can’t beat my little girl!

     Once inside their house, Dave asked Margie, “Do you know what you did wrong?”

     “I threw rocks after you told me not to.”

     “Do you know what I have to do?” he asked.

     “Daddy, please don’t spank me!” she pleaded as Dave slowly removed his leather belt.

     “This is going to hurt me more than it will, you,” he confessed.

     Outside the children listened as they heard the loud crack of the belt as it landed. “WHOMP!” followed by screaming. Again, the striking sound and yet again, followed by the keening wails of a small child. By this time, some of the neighborhood kids had pulled their moms and dads off of their porches and out of their homes, but back then, it was rare for another grown up to interfere with the punishment a parent inflicted upon his children. There was another blow, and another, then loud yelps.

     Inside, Dave was about to lash again. His belt lifted high, it came down and struck the leather couch a sixth time just as it had the others. He had not touched Little Margie. He knew that if he had, not only would it have possibly killed the tiny girl, but he couldn’t live with himself for inflicting such pain. She screamed and cried and meant every lamentation that blubbered from her lips beneath a snotty nose. Arm sore, Dave threw his belt in a corner. Margie did not go outside again until evening.

     For many years the neighbors thought that Dave had whipped his little step-daughter. Even as a teen, Margie believed he’d struck her mercilessly with his belt. A decade later as I sat with everyone and we gathered to talk about the old days, Margie said, “I remember when you hit me with your belt for throwing rocks. I hurt so bad -- far past the first day of school!”

     “You thought I’d actually hit you? I could have killed you if I’d struck even one blow!”

     Mary and Steve Nagy looked at each other, “Yeah, we remember that day!”

     “Well, each and every smack, I was walloping the couch next to your little bottom. I never hit you in your entire life!” Dave confessed. “What was I supposed to do, let you go unpunished for throwing rocks after I told you not to? All those kids watching?”

     Margie sighed, then got up and hugged him. They both had tears in their eyes. He drew back and with a ragged breath said, "I might have killed someone throwing stones, when I was a kid." That’s when he told us all about the last rock fight he ever had:                                                                                           

     “We faced each other. One group of boys up on a hill, a smaller group below. The boys above had the advantage of a clear view as well as gravity to aid them in throwing their chosen projectiles, mainly stones…”

A Short Story About a Russian Sailor and a Squirrel

                    The continuing tale of my father, David Owen, and his adventures along the Oregon coast.

 

     While my dad lived in Oregon with his brother Harold, their father George and LaVera, their stepmother, I don’t think the boys went to school. He never mentioned attending classes. It seems he just got into a lot of mischief, as youngsters that age are prone to do with little supervision and guidance.

     My father told me that many ships came into port from all over the world. One time he spent the day playing in a park close to the docks, running in the grass, and dodging tall trees. The cool shade was adequate, but he was thirsty and made his way to a fountain. As “Davey” took sips, he watched several squirrels scampering up and down limbs.

     In the meantime, a freighter docked from Russia. The weary sailors disembarked, many making their way to the very park my dad was playing in. One burly maritime comrade separated from the others. He said in broken English that he was from Russia. My dad kept a safe distance, not wanting to be shanghaied, but observed that the man was also eyeing the squirrels.

     “Good eating, those?” asked the sailor.

     My dad had eaten a few that his big brother shot and cooked during hard times and nodded. “Yes, they are.” He imagined fresh-fried squirrel and dumplings were better than the buggy sea rations and salted fishes that the sailors must have consumed for several weeks.

     The sailor reminded Davey just a little of the cartoon character Bluto from the Popeye comics and he watched with amusement as the large-armed stranger casually walked toward a bunch of the rodents. Their bushy tails twitched a little, but generally they had little to fear from the average picnicking families and their children. The little animals went about their business.

     The Russian set his sights on a fluffy momma squirrel with large haunches who rested beneath a tree that had a wide girth. As the foreigner approached, she eyed him with disinterest. The Russian looked to see if his audience was watching. Yes, indeed, Davey wanted to know what would happen next. The big man got closer, so the bushy-tailed animal jumped, but instead of scaling up the tree bark, it ran to the other side of the trunk. Davey and the man could still see the tip of a wee tail flicking from the other side, just above some gnarled roots. “Bluto” ran to that side of the tree, so Momma Squirrel did the same, running to the opposite, as if she was playing a game. Davey laughed, the Ruskie guffawed and grinned. He looked around the thick trunk; she looked from the other side, and it went on like that for several minutes until the squirrel had enough and climbed about five feet up, clinging to bark. She was still and quiet. Davey could see large shoulders heaving on the other side, then two hulking muscular arms reaching out as if to hug the tree. Then came the two hands with sausage-like fingers that, in an instant, throttled the squirrel around its slender middle.

     Just as quickly, the toothed, angry creature began to chew the man’s hands. He screamed and howled, but for some reason he would not loosen his grip! My dad watched in stunned horror as the fierce battle for survival went on and the intense pain-infused yelping from the other side of the oak continued.

     Suddenly the fingers disengaged. The squirrel dropped to the ground and hobbled off. Bluto came from the other side of the log, blood dripping from his meaty hands.

     “You!” He lifted a digit that looked like it had met with a sausage grinder and pointed it at Davey. “Look at my hands! They are no good to me now! YOU said it was good to eat! I should kill you!”

     My dad, with the swiftness of the unremorseful boy he was, ran a ways and said, “Yes, they are good to eat, but I never told you to catch one with  your  bare  hands!”

     So, the boy ran as fast as his feet would carry him, out of the park and as far from the scene as he could reasonably get. He did not go back there for some time, but there was more mischief to be enjoyed, as we shall see next week.

                        Harold Klein Owen and David Evert Owen in Detroit, just before their big move to Oregon

My Father's Journey to Oregon and Sneaking Into The Temple

     About 1944, my father David Owen, and the brother closest in age to him, Harold, ventured to Oregon. My grandparents had divorced and remarried—in fact my grandmother, Arizona, was newly wed a couple years to her second husband, Roy Farmer.

     These two youngest sons, were about to enter puberty and were full of mischief. They were no longer little children digging forts in a backyard in Detroit. The United States had only just entered World War two; Eugene and Edward, the older sons, were soldiers. Sisters Lynn-Marie and Delma were married and engaged, respectively.  It’s understandable that Zona and Roy needed some time to themselves.

     Grandpa (known as Ransom by friends and siblings, and Papa George by the youngsters) lived in Oregon with his second wife LaVera, so the boys were shipped by bus, west from Detroit. It was a long journey for two boys almost twelve and ten. They sat, day after day, city after city, state after state. They left the concrete of Detroit and soon entered highways lined with trees, drove past lakes, then farms, and through Chicago’s streets famed for gangsters, hooch and speakeasies only a decade or two before. When the boys left the Windy City, tall buildings behind them became smaller in the distance and soon there were only small towns, fields and little farmhouses to break the landscape during the day. If sleep came at all, it was fitful, bouncing and jostling in the hard seats. The whir of the large tires was their lullaby.  During the crossing, trees gave way to plains, plains changed to arid landscapes and within days, the Rocky Mountains came into view.

     In those days, older children could safely wander most cities as long as they didn’t venture far from the station. They’d listen for an announcement calling them to board yet another bus.

     Just as their transportation was entering Utah, the driver said, “Utah was settled by the Mormons in the 1880s. They turned a desert wasteland into what today, is a thriving state. Many of you have heard of Brigham Young and his many wives. He sent missionaries out into the world to preach, and when they departed, those boys were told to gather more women. ‘Bring them back and bring ’em young! bring ‘em young!’” the man joked.

     The vehicle pulled into the station in Salt Lake City. Passengers departed, some meeting relatives and others stretching their aching legs. Davey and Harold were told to return at a designated time, but they had a few hours to explore. They day was warm and the sun was shining. Davey toured around Temple Square and learned about the miracle of the seagulls who had flocked in to eat an invasion of crickets that were devouring the newly sprouting crops; the only food that the pioneers had. If not for those birds, the newly arrived families surely would have starved.

     By mid-day, alone in the bright direct sun, my dad being the curious boy he was, sought shade and respite in the large building he was nearest to. He entered a door that was obviously not being used. As his eyes adjusted to the darkness inside, the boy looked around, saw alters and such. There was some light and he saw a group of people in another room, dressed in white.

     A very surprised older gentleman saw him. The man walked over and asked, “Who are you? What are you doing in here?”

     Davey pointed, then answered, “I’m waiting for my bus. I came through that door over that way.” The old man gently guided him right back out the door, into the bright sun. He found Harold and the two made their way through the city and back to the station.

     Soon they heard a voice call them to board their bus to Oregon and days later, the boys were reunited with their Papa George. Davey was bound to get into more mischief and his brief adventure into the historic Salt Lake City Temple was only the beginning.

 

To be continued.

Photograph of the bus station in Salt Lake City ca. 1940's